Dear universe,

I have been rather out of flow recently. Life has been filled with frowns, stresses, tensions and conflicts. It is as though my life has been swung from one side of the continuum to the other.

Needless to say, I miss being fully in tune with myself and with life. Sometimes i miss it so much that my heart aches and I can’t help but have tears running down my cheeks. Especially when I read about Drunvalo’s adventures in his book Serpent of Life – Beyond 2012. While i haven’t been around the world like he had, I recognise and identify with those synchronicities that he keeps on receiving, and how he is totally guided by his heart and is led from one moment to the next, experiencing all kinds of amazing miracles.

I read it and i think, “That’s how life was for me just a while back ago…”, and my whole being aches with longing, wanting that life back.

Of cos, nothing is stopping me except for my fears. When using the Kyron deck recently, 2 out of three separate times,  i received the Kyron card “How can you fear what you have created? Remember you are the creator.”

I “know”… and yet, i’m lost.

My faith has never been tested to this extent before. All along, i have been the ardent believer in miracles and signs, and that ALL is possible.

But then, it’s been one heavy disappointment after another, accompanied by much criticism and disapproval from family. I can’t help but question myself, was I just deluding myself? Did I take things too far?

From the perspective of doubt, it seems like i have been making all kinds of foolish decisions in the past. It’s that easy to get influenced by my family who is totally not into spirituality. They tell me to rationalise, to be reasonable, to be responsible. Another friend whom I trust, has been telling me the same.

It seems like you can never win. Trusting yourself brings problems. Trusting others more than you trust yourself brings problems too.

Guess i’m not very wise. Maybe i was just plain naive.

But then, Drunvalo spent the larger part of his life doing exactly what i was doing a while back. Throwing caution to the winds and living on pure intuition. It worked wonders for him… and the entire humanity too.

That’s why, while reading the book, I cry tears of grief and yearning, missing the magic and grace that i was experiencing not too long ago. How I wish i could reconnect with that power and compassion that I found within me, where I felt like I was finally ready to step up to the role that i was here to fulfill. I remembered that i’m someone special, and yet no more special than any other human, and because i remembered my specialness, i could help others remember theirs as well.

The love and divinity that i experienced was like no other. It was like being lovingly cradled by the universe, as she gently guided me from one moment to the next. Everything was well taken care of. It was perfectly timed, perfectly arranged. All i had to do was to simply BE.

Ok… seems like universe wants to respond here…

There is much in store for you, Lena. This is just a transition that you are going through. It takes time for your body to catch up with the rewiring of energies that you have recently and still are experiencing. Keep trusting that you are still being guided every step of the way. You have never been let out of our sight. Don’t allow your mind to mislead you with doubts and inhibitions. You are MUCH MORE than your mind. Remember that your outward reality is nothing but a projection of your own fears, and the moment you recognise this, and are able to allow those fears to dissolve away, you will see your reality changing as well.

You have already waded into the pool of Infinite Love and Grace, and there is no way that you can undo that experience, or disconnect from it for long. For the truth is, you are still in this pool, even if you think that you aren’t. Allow yourself to be present with the discomforts, for you are being cleansed as well, and the discomfort is an inevitable part of the process. Trust that all is well, and when the time is right, you will once again experience reality As It Really Is.

Once again… always nice to hear a response from the universe, even if it might just be me speaking to me. Thank you universe!

Dear universe, I’m sad.

Why sad?

I feel like I lost that connection to Source that I felt so strongly just a while back ago.

Why do you feel that way?

I guess I just lost some faith after that recent spiritual attack. It’s like I don’t dare to look for signs so much anymore, and I don’t know now if following my heart is such a good thing after all, if the heart can also be so easily influenced.

Do you feel that your heart is easily influenced?

Maybe “easily influenced” is not the right term. My heart just naturally gravitates towards whatever is light and love, and I guess it can sometimes forget about the realities of life. Like that T Harv Eker’s Quantum Leap program for example. I was so convinced that I should go, until today when this guy friend managed to talk me out of it. It’s maddening… that I should let reason make the decision, instead of the heart. I was quite prepared to let miracles happen, and I really felt that somehow, you will find a way to give me the money for the course… but…

Ok, let’s back track a little here. So you decided not to take the course in the end.

Yeah.

Why?

Because everyone is telling me not to?

That’s it?

It might just be it. I’m just so tired of fighting all the time. It’s tiring to follow the heart when you are surrounded by pple who live their lives by their head.

No one is asking you to fight my dear.

But I feel like I have to.

Why?

Or I would get swallowed up by all of them. Do you know how tough it is to stick to your views when it’s one against 6 or 7?

But it’s never about fighting dear. It’s always about love. When love is put next to reason, love wins. Everytime. And it’s victory of peace and compassion.

I know… guess my ego was getting in the way as well. I just wanted to prove that I was right, and following my heart is right… but after that friend kinda put some sense through my thick skull, I realised that if I were to see someone else making the decision i made, I would have probably told her to reconsider as well.

Cos of reason?

Partly. But also cos of heart. After all, any decision that causes so much anxiety for the family cannot be too good a decision can it?

So your decision to take up the Quantum Leap course was causing anxiety to the family?

Yeah… especially for my mum. Shifu told her the $100 deposit , even if forfeited, is not worth the mother-daughter relationship. I guess the Quantum Leap course is not worth the mother-daughter relationship either. And she was really happy when I told her to help me get the refund for the deposit. Except that I wasn’t so happy.

Why not?

I feel like I have been brought down to earth with a huge thump, and it hurts. I really liked T Harv Eker you know… and I was looking forward to enjoying his program for the following year. Everyone says that there are people who attend the program and don’t get much out of it. But I say that’s because they did not apply themselves to the program. Then my friend asked me a few questions that made me realise that I didn’t apply all the advice he gave me as well, so what if i turn out to be like those pple who attend and didn’t make the efforts to do the homework?

Hmm… that’s a lot of doubts my dear.

Yes… I hate the way I am speaking now. I have created miracles before in my life, based on pure faith and immediate actions that came from inspiration. But with all the questions that people are bombarding me with these days, coupled with the spiritual attack, I am having big doubts about myself and the choices that I have been making.

No wonder you are upset my dear.

Yeah…and of cos there is that other thing, which is not worth mentioning here.

Lena, I thought that you know that we are always on your side.

It didn’t seem like the case during the spiritual attack.

You are presuming that the spiritual attack was a negative event. Yet, you also know that a lot of good came out of that event. As an Indigo, you would know by now that you are here to shake up the dust, so that everything that is no longer working can be brought to the surface and cleared out. That was part of the purpose for the spiritual attack. Of course, the other part comprised of all the choices made by each individual who was involved in one way or another. Yet, everything happened for a reason, and while it seemed as though you were the victim, together with K and your family, the truth is that all of you were co-creators of the situation. The way each of you chose to respond to each mini-event led to the next, and to the next… and the way it played out was to also bring up truths to be revealed and lessons to be learnt.

I keep feeling like it was my fault. Like once again, I’m the troublemaker who brings chaos to people’s lives.

Woah… you are sure in a self-critical mood tonight.

Yeah, Virgo, remember?

Yes, and free will, remember? You focus too much on labels, even though you say you don’t like labels. Be aware, that things we do not like, are often things which we support directly or indirectly in our thoughts and behaviour. So what if you are a Virgo? That only means that you have tendencies to behave in a certain way, but it is your CHOICE to break through these tendencies and to live your life based on love and wisdom. And how loving or wise is it to see yourself as a troublemaker, when it is entirely the opposite. You STIMULATE CHANGE.

Yeah… and some pple see that as trouble.

Sure, but you don’t have to agree. Lena, there are times to remain silent, and there are times to speak out. You stay silent because you are afraid of saying the wrong things and making things worse. That is no way to improve your communication skills. As a future teacher, you need to learn to express your views more openly, the way you do in your writings. When they are not well received, take that as feedback and learn to improve the way you present the truth, instead of deciding that you should never speak again. For you ARE wise, at least wiser than many other people, and it is ok for you to express this wisdom in front of people.

Sometimes I’m afraid that people would see me as showing off, or feel threatened by me in some way.

Why fear dear? You only need to love yourself and the people around you. With love, there is nothing to fear, and nothing to be feared.

That’s true… i don’t know why I allow myself to get worried over what people say.

You like harmony, and it’s a struggle for you when your natural urge to speak out the truth appear to create disharmony. Once again, develop your love, for truth that is expressed with love can only lead to harmony. It is your impatience to “fix” things that leads to disharmony, for people can sense that you are trying to fix them, and of cos, they refused to be fixed by you, just like how you would refuse to be fixed by them.

Right… geez… i still have such a long way to go don’t I?

To what?

To enlightenment?

What’s with the need to be enlightened?

I don’t know… you mean there is a problem with that? It IS the ultimate goal of life isn’t it?

Depends. If you live your life looking for enlightenment, you will never find it.

Huh? Buddha did sit under the tree swearing that he won’t leave till he gained enlightenment.

So?

So why can’t I look for enlightenment? Buddha did right?

The way you are doing it is a little different dear. You are looking for it from the external world. Buddha meditated… he seeked within.

Ok lo… so i’m wrong again.

Hello… you gotta have a better attitude. You seem really down tonight.

Sorry… this conversation is really helping me, and even if I am really just conversing with myself, at least the higher self part of me, there have been soem really good insights so far. It’s just that… you know…

Remember. Let go. All will happen in good time.

Getting a bit sick of that advice by now.

Remember that message you read today? Why rush your way to the party if you get there so early that the party hasn’t even started? Enjoy the walk there… the party will start, when it’s time for it to start. In the meantime, have fun first!

I wish the party can start now.

I wish I wish I wish….

Yes, I’m behaving like a kid right. I seem to have kinda regressed into becoming a little girl again.

Is that bad?

No, just weird.

Love the girlie side of you my dear… love all aspects of you. The dreamer, the skeptic, the romantic, the pragmatic, the temptress, the virtuous, the beautiful, the ugly…. this is what makes you HUMAN. This is what makes you wonderfully interesting, and this is what makes you YOU.

Thank you universe… it’s been so nice to talk to you. I forget so many things, whenever I get into this negative state, and it’s really cool to be reminded by you tonight.

You’re welcome… and know that you can choose to remember, simply by choosing not to get into negative states. Remember your own advice to your client today? Simply observe the negative states of thought and emotion. No need to resist, and no need to dwell. Just note, and let go. And then do whatever you know to do. Tap, sing, blog… you do have many ways of getting yourself out of that state. You have grown a great deal my dear… and you should be proud of yourself.

Yeah… i should huh? I have been handling things much better than I would have in the past. I guess all that tapping has really helped.

Yes… and do share about it in your EFT workshop this and next Sunday. Your story can be a real inspiration to others. Perhaps that was the reason why you had to go through all these sh*t… don’t you think?

Yeah, I had to walk the talk before I could show other pple the walk

And you have done well.

Thank you. Okie. my eyelids are dropping… I should be going off to bed. Maybe we can continue this conversation in dream state.

Or maybe you can have more interesting adventures…

Haha… ok, I’m open! As long as it’s light and l0ve, it’s all good. Good night!

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER (1) Healing Insights (2) Announcements (3) Recommended Resources (4) Happy Comments Healing Insights Dear One, I have always felt that money isn’t important – until I entered the working world! While I have been more of a spiritual enthusiast since an early age, I have been more and more concerned about money matters in the recent years, taking a keener interest in investment and money management. (Who isn’t, anyway?)   Nevertheless, I quit my job at the counselling centre I was working at without caring about the fact that I won’t have a steady source of income. It was a decision purely based on faith – that I was needed to be out there in the world, serving people with my strengths and gifts, and somehow or another, knowing that somehow, the universe will provide for me.   Such a decision would make most people’s jaws drop, but I have always been, and still is, the idealist.   Still, I am not above money-related fears. There are times when I try to scrimp and save, worried that money will not come in… after all, I have yet to see money literally drop from the sky.   However, thankfully, more often than not, I totally surrender my fears to the universe, and focus on giving my energies to the world. That’s when miracles will happen. Sometimes in the form of actual cash, sometimes in other forms, such as meal treats or practical gifts that I needed at the moment.   Let’s put it this way. With faith and generosity in giving, one can indeed experience money "dropping from the sky". A good friend told me the amazing story of how she sponsored a girl to exhibit her works in a gallery. The cost came up to twice her expected amount, and she deliberated for a while before she decided that this girl’s passion is more important than the money, and went ahead with the sponsorship. Less than a week later, she received more than double the amount of returns from her investments.   The reality is that we are already beings of infinite abundance. We only do not experience ourselves as such because we forgot who we really are. So we complain about not having enough time, worry about not having enough money, fret over our health, pine for that ideal loving relationship, etc.   However when we remember that we are indeed beings of infinite abundance, and express it through positive acts of giving (and we can only give because we know we have something to give), we are announcing to the universe of this remembrance. And the universe is more than happy to mirror back to us what we already know, by sending even more abundance into our world.   So what do you feel you lack at this moment? If it’s money, then please, give money away, even if it’s just a few cents. If it’s time, then volunteer a few minutes of your time to help someone. If it’s good health, then do a blood donation. If it’s knowledge, share information with someone. If it’s love, then send love to your loved ones, even strangers.   Geddit?   If you give it away, then the universe knows that you remember you already own it… and you can only attract more of what you already own.   Why did I even write this newsletter? Because I want to teach what I myself need to remember… and as a result, I’m feeling infinitely wealthy and joyful!   Here’s the tapping exercise for today   Even though I feel that I lack ____, I deeply and completely accept all my fears about this issue, and I choose to recognise the riches that are already within me so that I can start sharing them with all those around me.   Tap on the remaining EFT points focusing on this certain lack in your life and your feelings about it, and just observe the thoughts and memories that arise as material for more tapping.   May more and more riches that are already within you be revealed to you day by day!   Announcements   If you are feeling certain lacks in your life, whether it is in health, money, time, energy, love, etc, you are welcome to join me for Prosperity with EFT this Friday 7.30 pm – 9 pm. Sessions are by donation. There is no need to reveal your issues, and you will find much healing in this safe and supportive group environment… laughter included too! Please sms me at 96715709 to register.   EFT Workshop Level I is now open for registration! This 6-hour workshop is on 22 and 29 November (Sunday) 2 – 5 pm and will cover all the basics you need about EFT to heal your issues and even help your loved ones as well. Highly interactive and experiential, this is a workshop that will empower you to manage your own emotions so that you can have better relationships, work success, health, etc. Investment is $120/pax for single registrations and $110/pax for registrations of 2 or more people. Do invite your family and friends to join you so that you can have your own EFT gang! To register, send your full name, contact number and email address to lena@lenashealinghaven.com (if you are registering for someone else, be sure to give their details too).   NOTE: Participants of previous EFT workshops are welcome to re-attend for free… every workshop is slightly, so feel free to bask in the positive energy, contribute your inputs and integrate old and new knowledge on a new level!   Aside from face-to-face consultations, sessions with me by phone and Skype are available too. These are especially good if you have urgent issues to clear but can’t find the time to come down for a face-to-face session. I am committed to supporting you in your healing journey, and would be happy to offer you last-minute sessions over the phone so long as my time is available. Do email me at lena@lenashealinghaven.com for questions and booking of sessions.   Note: All events are held at Shan You Counselling Centre. Please go to ww.shanyou.org.sg for driving and bus directions.     Recommended Resources   Hwee San is a healer that I highly recommend. Highly compassionate and intuitive, she offers a wide range of services. Check her website out at www.hweesan.light-love.net   Another practitioner that I recommend is Fauziah of Petra Hypnosis (http://petrahypnosis.com/). She is very professional in her delivery of services as well as training courses, and committed to helping her clients through 5 PATH and 7th Path hypnotherapy.   (Why do I recommend other practitioners? I believe that there is not a single person in this world who can help everyone, and if you do not feel connected to my services, then I hope you will find someone whom you could connect with, to get the appropriate healing for yourself. Ultimately, the more people healed, the better the world we live in!)   Happy Comments   Comments from clients about their EFT consultations with me:   "I felt more relaxed and happier after the 1st session. The 2nd session was a miracle! I got the answer that I have been searching for all this while. I could feel my energy flowing back and I am ready to face myself and the world once again. Lena was happy for me and told me that I did not have to come back for another session. The answer that I have been searching for came to light after 2 EFT sessions! Wow!" Alice, financial planner   "I attended EFT sessions with Lena over a 3 month period, during which I have experienced Lena’s warmth, kindness, sincerity, passion as a therapist. Lena has empowered and inspired me to use EFT to work through my chronic issues related to anxiety. I particularly appreciate Lena’s gentle and patient therapeutic style, which has helped me to be more gentle and patient with myself; I now find that my negative feelings of self-loathing are quicker to translate into greater self-acceptance. I am also struck by Lena’s spot-on sense of intuition, which has given her the wonderful ability to unravel core issues that underpin many behavioural traits." Deana, graduate student   May you be always guided towards healing, so that you awaken to the true essence of your being. Love and blessings, Lena Chen Holistic Therapist www.lenashealinghaven.com Finding peace through life’s ups and downs PS: If you have enjoyed this newsletter, please forward it to your friends and loved ones. If you received this newsletter from someone, you may subscribe directly at www.lenashealinghaven.com

Fear comes in many guises and I observed it plenty of times in myself and others in the last 3 days of Millionaire Mind Intensive by T Harv Eker.

It comes in the form of “This is stupid hype”, and “He just wants to make money from us.”

Behaviour wise, it may look like a consistent urge to go to the toilet, snack, go for a puff break.

It may look like sleepiness, rolling of eyes, lethargy.

The butt suddenly feels heavier than usual so that you have no choice but to have it firmly stuck to the chair everytime there is a stand-up declaration exercise.

Of cos, with the group energy, i would say the above form of resistance is less common. But i’m pretty sure that the not so tangible forms of resistance were all kicking up a scene in these 3 days.

Being still caught in judgmental mode, I notice each of my friend displaying their fear in different ways, and wondered…. now what am i doing with pple like that?

So i did EFT and ho’oponopono almost continuously for the whole 3 days. Ya, if you happened to be there and saw this tall girl who seem to have some sort of fits that looks like tapping on various part of the body, that’s me.

At one point, i wondered, could all of my friends represent some overlooked aspect of myself that represents resistance and fear. That realisation came just shortly before I received an sms from a friend “What we do not admit in our consciousness returns to us as fate.” How profoundly true.

So i did my best in dropping the judgments and doubled my efforts in tapping on myself, taking my environment as nothing but feedback on myself. There seemed to be a correlaton of some sort. The more tapping i did, the more receptive and positive my friends became. So i kept tapping… these 3 days were like a tapping fiesta for me. But it paid off. My energy dipped on the 2nd day, cos lots of stuff was coming up for me, but on the 3rd day, it remained  high and I was happy to be seated next to a very dear old friend. I felt so safe in his company that during one of the processes where we were supposed to share about things that triggered our negative emotions, i was surprised when tears suddenly came. Gee… i’m more repressed than i tot i was. Had absolutely no idea those emotions were inside me. So much for that!

And kudos to my friend for not reacting AT ALL. I am so sensitive to other pple’s rxns that any “wrong moves” wld shut away the tears immediately (mum’s tears are definitely one of them). He was perfect in his response because he just remained open and continued to listen, as if nothing was wrong. Perfect. I could take a leaf out of his book.

On hindsight, all that tapping could have peeled away enough resistance for the true emotions to show up. Anyway, better out than in. I’m always “happy” to cry, since i prize crying highly for its healing benefits.

Not only was 3rd day most intense in emotional processing (surprisingly gd for a prosperity workshop!), it was also most exciting as we got to participate in the famous exercise of breaking an arrow by pushing into it, with one end on a partner’s outstretched palm, and the other end against the base of our throat!

EThis was when I knew that EFT definitely worked its wonders on me cos i experienced zil fear while doing it and there was totally no pain. I only knew that mine was unique because my friend said it hurt a little for him, and a couple others said they had to try a few times because it hurt too much for them. Apparently, the fear is what causes the pain! And i like what someone shared during the debrief, “If you move towards fear, the fear disappears.”

All in all, it was an AWESOME seminar. Not just because it was fun and exhilerating to in the same room with T Harv Eker who is officially the person I respect and admire most (now Brandon Bays is second to him). But because the vibrations in the room were so high that it brought out all the lower vibrations in me… in fact, i was close to leaving halfway on the 2nd day, and not coming back on the 3rd. Thankfully I pushed through with tapping and 3rd day was the absolute best.

The company you sit with does make a difference. The hi-fives make a huge difference! This is the first time i realised the magic of a hi-5. It’s truly magical how a few hi-5s with absolute strangers can energise you up completely. I’m now a real fan of hi-5s… if hugs are not allowed, hi-5s will do too!

3rd day was also special for me cos i got my mum to join inthe afternoon session. It was a real delight for me to see her actually join in the dancing during Follow The Leader dancing game, and it felt good to be giving her hi-5s. I was also quite proud of her for participating in the arrow exercise and she went though it quite easily.

Alas, she had her own issues to deal with, and when i came home in the evening, all that resistance within her came out as bombardment on me and my decision to join the Quantum Leap. Whew… last night was a real toughie. I only barely remained sane with the help of EFT and ho’oponopono.

But the thought of being in the Quantum Leap program brings my spirits up again. Even though I still don’t know how I’m going to pay for it, I have absolutely no doubt that i’m meant to be there, and it’s going to help me tremendously in both prosperity and financial growth. T Harv Eker is a true spiritual master. His stories are so authentically inspiring, and while he can be a real Mr Toughie at times, i can feel the love from which his tough words arose. His prices may not be very affordable, at least coming from my current prosperity mindset, but I know based on other people’s testimonials, that the program fees are but a fraction of the payoffs that would result from participating in the programs with 100% heart and soul.

I know he puts in his 100% heart and soul. Anyone with a heart and soul would feel that coming from him in these 3 days. The story of him and his dad was the utimate for me. You would think that with the retelling of this story over and over again, it would sound a little cliche by now (and with another trainer, i did feel that at the 2nd time i heard the trainer’s personal story, it sounded more theatrical than real). But it was all heart, and I could feel the love he has for his dad. When we sang The Living Years, a guy nearby was sobbing his eyes out…and I could not help but tear as well, for there is so much i have yet to do for my parents.

I feel like i have met my spiritual cum prosperity teacher. During the end of the program, T Harv Eker told us his story of learning Zen Buddhism for 3 years and coming close to becoming a zen monk. Yet, he was still not happy. Finally it hit him that he could have both spirituality and money, and that was the turning point of his life as he went on to start highly successful businesses, and finally teaching others to become prosperous using the heart and spirit.

Since my life path number is an 8, my destiny is also about conquering both the spiritual and material worlds and bridging them together. T Harv Eker might be just the person who would help me to fulfill this destiny.

During the serious hard sell part, I knew i should attend QL but had absolutely no idea how. My mum had already left and I had no credit card. Yet i knew i should go. I kept asking the universe, “What do i do?”

I only received the letter “C”. C what?

I was heading towards the registration booth but my feet decided to take me out the door instead, so i checked my handphone. Is there anyone under C that I could possible borrow money from?

My C contacts were all friends whom I wasn’t particularly close to, but one of them, Charles Au, just emailed me a 2 liner the other day. As i recalled his words “Ask for anything that you want in this new world”, i wondered if this is the message the universe wanted to remind me of.

I went back to the registration booth, without a credit card and not much to place a deposit with, and there were so many people there that i was a little lost. I saw a friend who was registering with her friend, and from their exchange with the staff, i knew that placing a deposit was possible. Ok, one obstacle down. Also found out that finding a partner would cut the price down by $1K.

Right, partner. I wandered around trying to find a partner but to no avail. Standing right in front of the table, this sweet looking Indian staff person asked me “Can I help?” I told her i was looking for a partner, and she looked a little clueless. Then she approached her colleague next to her… who “happened” to have a half-processed form that was left hanging cos the man disappeared, and it’s the partner deal! Wow, indeed a case of “Ask and you shall receive”! Thanks to their help, i saved $1000!

Then it came to making the deposit. After 2 slightly awkward rejections of my ATM card, i asked the girl to try yet another lower amount. To my surprise, she only took a deposit of $100, which i definitely had in my account, and there… i was a Quantum Leap member!

At the end of the program, the Quantum Leap members had a special reception and the 1st 50 was entitled to a free personally autographed copy by T Harv Eker and a photo shot with him. I was definitely not amongst the first 50, but i saw 2 ex-clients who were amongst the first 50, and thanks to them, i managed to enjoy the same privileges too! Am i lucky or what?

Seeing T Harv Eker up close and personal was extremely exciting for me. Yes, he is handsome and charismatic, but it was the love and compassion that was flowing from him that got me on a high. He feels like this wise, kindly father, who would do anything for me so that i could be successful. And yes… because i am so in love with this guy, i would do anything he asks me to do. I know that sounds really cheesy… but i’m just in awe of his love, generosity and brilliance, and i aim to be one of his top students in this batch of Quantum Leap program!

I’m so grateful to the universe for responding to my act of courage with such efficiency and grace. All i did was to ask, and be open…and it is like a thousand doors were open for me to welcome me in. Thank you so much universe! Thank you for the gifts, and thank you for the teacher who will help me grow spiritually and materially. I still don’t know yet how i’m going to pay for the course, and my mum and sis are still both upset at me for making this “foolhardy and irresponsible” decision, but heck.. it’s all part of the clearing process, and i shall trust that by continuing to follow my heart, you will open up the way for me to fulfilling my spiritual destiny.

A-HO!

From Toni Ann Winniger’s channelled session on Abundance on 27 April 2009:

• First, acknowledge that we are prosperous. Acceptance is acknowledging to your soul’s consciousness, that you want to embrace who you are.
• “What do you think about this” raises answers that come from beliefs of others. Instead “what do I feel about this?” raises answers that come from the unconditional love spark within you. If it doesn’t feel right, ask “What is the alternative choice?”
• PROSPERITY = wealth + health + relationships
• Question the absolutes “Why?”
• We “come down” to find wisdom, not just knowledge.
• A lot of how we see prosperity has to do with how we see ourselves. “Who am I?” – do i let the labels define me or do I let the labels be something that people can use.
• Banish fear by hunting for it – be always aware of yoursef. ADMIT your exact feelings.
• Spirituality is about participating. Fear keeps us from living.
• “There is a better course out there, a better way to do it.” is another guise of fear
• The mind teaches us to survive, not to thrive.
• You cannot manifest for something that is not in accordance with your highest good.
• Money is energy – you can learn more about yourself by having more of it.
• If you love yourself, you will do what is right for others to love themselves.
• Everything that isn’t a feeling of total completion and self-love is a life lesson.
• The most powerful affirmation: “I love myself”

Lena’s Healing Haven

IN THIS NEWSLETTER (1) Healing Insights  (2) Announcements (3) Recommended Resources (4) Happy Comments    Healing Insights Dear One, I just got discharged from the hospital yesterday after a 5 day stay that was a result of a spiritual attack. Yes, I state it this openly because I feel sufficiently comfortable with myself to not care too much about what people think, and because of the Law of Attraction, whereby I know that the subscribers of this newsletter can only be people who are understanding, compassionate and supportive because that is the kind of person that I am.   (Yes that includes YOU!)   This past week was yet another opportunity for me to test my inner resilience and self-understanding, and I rejoice for the lessons that I learnt from these precious few days. Yet again, I was given the chance to shed off another layer of old conditioning, coming out brighter, newer and ready to shine more light into the world.   One lesson that I learnt was that it is different from THINKING enlightened-ly to BEING enlightened. All this while, I considered myself as a wise compassionate person who knows how to radiate love towards others. But it’s only yesterday, where I experienced a more authentic expression of love, which was manifested as simple acts of goodwill towards family members.   Yes, I will confess that I am one who finds it easier to be kind to strangers than to be kind to loved ones, so it took me a while to understand this. That It is because our loved ones trigger our hot buttons, that is why we are kinder towards them, for not only do they give us their love (even if it is expressed in ways which do not suit our individual preferences), they give us the chance to acknowledge our flaws so that we may become better human beings.   This was a HUGE lesson for me that I only intellectually knew in the past and now finally got it experientially. In the HEART and not just in the head.   And this also provided me another lesson that oftentime, being a better human being does not mean going to more workshops, reading more books, or even doing more EFT!   Then what is it about?   Here’s the clue: It is not about the Doing.   It is about BE-ing fully honest with yourself and giving yourself the chance to see your shortcomings. This requires a very healthy ego. An ego that has the attitude of "Yes, I am often unkind to my loved ones, but I’m still a good human being." In EFT language, it could be the Setup Statement of "Even though I am unkind to my loved ones, I deeply and completely accept myself".   Many people are sandwiched between not wanting to see their shortcomings ("Me unkind? Never! Did you not see me giving $10 to that tissue lady???"), and not wanting to admit that they are MORE than just their shortcomings ("I am so unkind that I should stop teaching EFT forever!" – ya, I can be so drama mama….)   Nevertheless, we are all at different levels of enlightenment, and that’s exactly where we need to be, and it’s not bad. A 10 year old cannot be judged for not being as "educated" as a university graduate. A 10 year old is simply a 10 year old and what do we do with 10 year olds? The same thing as we do with 20 year olds, 30 year olds….  and even 80 and 90 year olds.   We love them.   And we give them time to mature, so that more of their true beingness gets revealed day by day.   So here are some questions for reflections:    What is a shortcoming that you often detect in yourself?   Can you accept yourself for having this shortcoming?   Have you figured out the antidote to that shortcoming?   If yes, can you practice it using the HEART for this week?     Personally, I am lazy about answering such questions and would usually skip them in self-help books/newsletters unless someone is standing next to me making sure I do it.   So kudos to those of you who are taking the time to answer those questions!!!   To those who showed concern to me whether it’s in your hearts or through sms, thank you very much for your love and concern. And in case you are still wondering how I am now… I have never been better!   Btw this statement applies no matter when you ask me this question because life always helps me to grow into a bigger, better and more beautiful person, so I ALWAYS am better than I was just a moment ago.:)     Tapping Exercise for today:   Doing the Karate Chop point, say "Even though I have this shortcoming that I feel ____ (i.e. guilty, angry, sad) about, I recognise that humans, like natural diamonds, are beautiful because of the flaws in them, and I choose to love myself anyway, giving myself all the time I need to understand the source of this shortcoming and to overcome it naturally and easily."   Tap the rest of the EFT points just paying attention to your feelings about the this particular shortcoming you have, and take note of memories and thoughts that surface, which could be material for further EFT sessions.   May you see yourself as a divine and magnificent being, who is not beyond shortcomings and negativities, but still shine radiantly anyway!       Announcements   My apologies to those of you who wanted to come for Prosperity with EFT last Friday which got cancelled last minute. Do note that RSVP is essential so you get informed when there is last minute cancellation. Anywayz, Prosperity with EFT resumes this Friday 7.30 pm, and I hope that those of you who wanted to come last Friday can make it this time round… I would love to see you all! Sms me at 96715709 to register.   EFT Workshop Level I is now open for registration! This 6-hour workshop is on 22 and 29 November (Sunday) 2 – 5 pm and will cover all the basics you need about EFT to heal your issues and even help your loved ones as well. Highly interactive and experiential, this is a workshop that will empower you to manage your own emotions so that you can have better relationships, work success, health, etc. Investment is $120/pax for single registrations and $110/pax for registrations of 2 or more people. Do invite your family and friends to join you so that you can have your own EFT gang! To register, send your full name, contact number and email address to lena@lenashealinghaven.com (if you are registering for someone else, be sure to give their details too).   NOTE: Participants of previous EFT workshops are welcome to re-attend for free… every workshop is slightly, so feel free to bask in the positive energy, contribute your inputs and integrate old and new knowledge on a new level!   Aside from face-to-face consultations, sessions with me by phone and Skype are available too. These are especially good if you have urgent issues to clear but can’t find the time to come down for a face-to-face session. I am committed to supporting you in your healing journey, and would be happy to offer you last-minute sessions over the phone so long as my time is available. Do email me at lena@lenashealinghaven.com for questions and booking of sessions.   Note: All events are held at Shan You Counselling Centre. Please go to ww.shanyou.org.sg for driving and bus directions.     Recommended Resources   Here are some good EFT stuff that you can check out.   For clearing money blocks – http://secretofintentionalwealth.com/blocks/. The typical Internet marketing here may make it tempting for some of you to buy the products. Take note that I do not receive any commission if you do so, but I would recommend that you go ahead if you intend to use the products after that, because EFT does work and I like Margaret Lynch’s very positive and grounded energy. Otherwise, just use the free videos and other freebies (like me!). PS: If you do get her stuff, let me know how it is! For knowing what to say when doing tapping – EFT Affirmation Cards. I designed these cards because people always ask me "What do I say?". These cards went from idea-in-the-head to actual-3-D-product in less than 48 hours, so I know that these cards, like my book, was a divine inspiration. Check them out at my website: http://www.lenashealinghaven.com/onlinestores.htm#onlinestore. For readers of this newsletter, I am offering a very special offer limited to the 1st 5 folks who email me to order a box (at $30) – you will be getting a copy of my book "Emotional Freedom At Your Fingertips: How to get from PISSED to PEACE in mere minutes with Emotional Freedom Techniques" for free. You may get them directly from me or I can have them delivered them to you via snail mail. For learning more about EFT or getting more motivated to tap -  EFT documentary "The Tapping Solution" (formerly known as "Try It On Everything"). Inspiring, heartwarming, and informative, this documentary features normal people applying EFT to their issues, as well as well known folks such as Jack Canfield and Bob Proctor. I hold free movie screenings on the first Sat of every month (except for last one which got cancelled unfortunately), but if you wish to loan the DVD from me, just ASK. You may also purchase your own copy from the website: http://www.thetappingsolution.com/index2.php Tapping may not be the best way to reach enlightenment (simply because there is no such thing as "the best way"…) but as those of you who have been tapping would know, it’s a super good and easy way to progress towards that direction more swiftly. So keep tapping!     Happy Comments   Comments about previous EFT Level I workshops:   "Enjoyed your first session very much. Useful information was imparted and your engaging faciliatation skills made the session enjoyable and fruitful in terms of experiential learning in a non-threatening atmosphere." Casey, teacher   "Well done, Lena. Keep TAP, TAP, TAP… I have learned a good deal and looking forward to Level 2." Freddy, Hypnotherapist   "It was an insightful experience and I feel that the way it was taught, it was very convincing. The personal tapping helped a lot to make sense of what was taught. Thank you. I enjoyed myself." Anette Kettenbech, psychologist   "Lena is an inspiring and yet down-to-earth trainer by not only providing the "technicalities" and "principles of EFT", but more importantly, her honesty in sharing how EFT application may be hindered by human moods via her own negative experiences and live demos with volunteers." Arina Lim, homemaker     I hope to meet you at the next workshop!   Till the next time we meet, may each moment of your life be blessed by clarity and joy.   Love and blessings, Lena Chen Holistic Therapist www.lenashealinghaven.com Finding peace through life’s ups and downs   PS: If you have enjoyed this newsletter, please forward it to your friends and loved ones. If you received this newsletter from someone, you may subscribe directly at www.lenashealinghaven.com

According to the Universe (Mike Dooley’s variation),

Impatience is what you feel when you think the future, in either hours, days, or years, will be “better” than the present.

Mike Dooley sure has a knack of delivering these truths in bite-sized pieces that kinda sting the delusions out of you.

At least this one stings for me because i have been fantasizing a lot about a possible future. A future where I have the dream relationship with my dream man, where we are actively living the life of our dreams which allows us to serve our needs 100% and at the same time, contribute to the betterment of the world. (geez, does that sound like some kind of national pledge?)

For those of you who know me personally, you might find it a bit strange for me to have such fantasies. Hello, I’m married right?

But here’s the deal. Things ARE changing for me, in every part of my life, and that includes the marriage part. The marriage had its ups and downs, and i wouldn’t have traded the last 4 years for anything else, because this path has probably taken me further down my “spiritual path” than any other path.

Yet, with the ascension process happening for each and every one of us who has the intention of bringing more light to this (gosh, i nearly typed shit… what??? light up the shit?) world, tremendous shifts are happening especially in the relationships department.

To put it simply, I love my husband dearly as a spiritual buddy, but my heart belongs to another person whom I deem as my soulmate.

“How do you even know he is your soulmate?” I have been asked this question by my friends. Friends who have kindly indulged me in my ranting over the last few months… you know who you are…thank you!

Well, as i told one of them. (In fact, the same one who is in a similar state as I am, as he has also recently met his soulmate who happens to be married with 3 kids…I would say that our conversations are very informative for both of us since we can provide the other party’s perspective) “You just know. It doesn’t come from logic.”

He, of cos, understands perfectly.

But still, he asked the same question the next time we met. I guess it’s just a human trait to be curious, to be logical…. and perhaps, to be SURE.

Well, i told him about 40% of the happenings (the remaining 60% have been told till i was sick of talking about it) that pointed me into the direction of seeing X as my soulmate.

He concurred that X is my soulmate.

So here’s the thing. I feel like the girl from Enchanted who came from Disneyland world into the physical 3-D world. Seriously, i feel like i can dance and sing  all day long, if not physically than in my heart, knowing that soulmates DO exist, and wow… that feeling of connecting to your soulmate is just incredible.

How can i describe it?

These few months i have been experiencing homecoming. Coming home to myself, where I literally soak up in my own energy, and loving every bit of it. The recent spiritual attack I had was a good reminder for me, of how good it is to be me. Cos i was experiencing really strange things during the past week, and apparently there were known and unknown entities coming in and out of me, thoughts and feelings were arising in me which were not mine.

So when the episode was finally over and I was back to myself again, my friend asked me how I was.

I told her, “I feel like myself again. I’m so happy!” My joy was so pure that she was moved to give me a hug. And it was only this morning during meditation when i recalled that incident that I realised that sometimes i take myself for granted. To be Lena is really awesome… and that is really all that is needed at any given point in time. It’s a gift to be me, and to just lounge in this being-ness can make the world feel magic.

In many ways, the spiritual attack was a blessing, and yes, to be reminded of the gift that my being-ness represents is the greatest blessing of all.

Well, meeting a soulmate is a little like coming back to that favourite corner in your home. I was about to liken it to a celebration party, and in some ways, the first few encounters can be very much like that. Joyful, exciting, happy champagne bubbles bouncing all over the place.

But taken to a deeper level, it’s really about being in your favourite part of the home (that is your soul). Deep deep sense of completion and restfulness. Like it’s game over, and yet, at the same time, it’s game replay. And it’s the kind of game that promises only plentiful rewards and joyful surprises.

These words won’t make much sense to many i guess. How can an experience be captured in Earth language? But those who are in a soulmate relationship right now, you know what i’m trying my darnest best to describe.

Anyway, as beautiful and poetic a soulmate relationship sounds and actually is, reality has yet to catch up with fantasy. That’s where the impatience comes in…

And i have to keep reminding myself, everything will happen in good time.

Yes, Lena, keep in good faith, know that no matter what happens, you are very much loved by all in the universe. Continue to shine your light out in the world, and you can only attract the best outcomes possible for everyone involved in this situation. Remember to love, love, and love some more… most of all, yourself. Trust that everyone is awakening to their higher selves, returning to their homes in good time, and we will all be reunited with one another VERY soon.

Thank you!

 

TODAY’S CONTEMPLATION

The ego looks for peace
the spirit rests in it

The ego looks for love
the spirit gives it freely

The ego is in constant search for happiness
the spirit is absorbed in joy

The ego looks for control
the spirit is totally free

The ego looks for longevity
the spirit is immortal

The ego accumulates information
the spirit is Supreme Wisdom

The ego is limited by space and time
the spirit is boundless

The ego is only a player in a show
the spirit is life itself

The ego is false
the spirit is real

The ego wants more and more
the spirit has it all!

— Bob Gottfried (Shortcut to Spirituality: Mastering the Art of Inner Peace)

Lena’s Healing Haven

IN THIS NEWSLETTER (1) Healing Insights  (2) Announcements (3) Recommended Resources (4) Happy Comments    Healing Insights Dear One, Does it feel like life is getting very very… what’s the word… if taken positively, *dynamic*… if not so positive, CHAOTIC???   If you answered yes to this question, be rest assured that you are not alone.    As the year comes closer to an end, there is a global shifting of energies that requires everything that is stale, unnecessary and irrelevant to be purged out of our lives. This mean result in increased conflicts or even breakups in relationships, a need to change your work or living environment, a sudden spike in motivation to quit smoking or adopt a more healthier lifestyle… and maybe even get a drastically new haircut!   Ahem… the latter was what I did, so look out for my new very short hair!   Haha… but more than that, in the last 2 months, there have been dramatic changes in every single aspect of my life. Chaotic yes… but nothing bad. Let me compare it to a rollercoaster ride.   You know when you first put on your seatbelt on the rollercoaster, there is always that sense of excitement and anticipation about the journey that lies ahead. The ride starts off slow, and everyone is relaxed, happy and enjoying the scenery. As we come to the first uphill, some of us start to get anxious, knowing that we are nearing the top, whereas the less faint-hearted get even more excited.   Finally, that downhill slope is right in front of us, and you think, "Gosh, what did I get myself into?" Rollercoaster tips over, and rushes down with full speed. SCREAMMMMMM….   The scream is a natural response from the body to sudden thrills, and it is a way to release the fear in us. Screaming (just like crying) is Great!   But as the rollercoaster drops down, some honestly feel like they are going to die. Whereas some of us, even as we are screaming out all that pent-up energy, we enjoy the thrill of it, remembering that this is just a game, that we have chosen to play.   We are all fellow riders on this rollercoaster game of life, and at this moment in time, many of us are tipping over the top and crashing all the way down. Can we prevent it? Honestly, no. We may try, but the more you resist the changes in your life, the more stress and frustration that would result.   But if you could just put your hands up in the air in surrender, allow that scream to come out of your mouth (in other words, just let the energy out!), and experience the crash as fully as you can remembering that this is actually the reason why you decided to get on the rollercoaster ride in the first place…   … you will eventually reach the bottom, and in a strange way, while you are relieved that it’s over, you are also satisfied and happy, that you have survived! (of course, some of us would be declaring that is the last time that we sit on a roller coaster ride!)   And the truth is, we all WILL survive… that is a guarantee, for we are never given more than we can handle in life though Mother Teresa once wistfully remarked "I just wish that God didn’t trust me so much!".   Yet, life is more than just surviving. It is about THRIVING! So enjoy the ride… know that it will come to an end, and it is both the ups AND the downs that make life worth living.   I have definitely just had a "helluva" ride, but now that I’m coming to the end of a chapter, and starting a new chapter in my life, I look back with satisfaction and triumph. It was so worth it…and if I had the chance to sit the ride again, YES i would!   And that’s what I wish for you as well. To look back knowing that you have done well, with no regrets, and ready to move forward to whatever awaits you.   For there are more exciting rides ahead!   Tapping Exercise for today:   Doing the Karate Chop point, say "Even though there are too many changes happening in my life and I am afraid that I cannot handle it, I deeply and completely accept these mixed emotions in me, and I choose to surrender it all to my *Higher Power*, trusting that I am fully guided and supported in this journey."   Tap the rest of the EFT points just paying attention to your feelings about the changes in your life. It could be feeling overwhelmed and stressed about the changes, confused about what to do, angry at the people and situations in your life, guilt about causing distress to others (and know that we are never responsible for how other people feel), sad about leaving relationships behind, worried about the uncertainty that lies ahead….   Ok, I could go on and on, but remember, only you would know your thoughts and feelings, so look within and tap on them.   May you have the most awesome rollercoaster ride of life!       Announcements   You are invited to the free EFT movie screening of "Try It On Everything" this Saturday 2.30 – 4pm. I cannot recommend this movie highly enough. Not only will you learn that happiness and health lies literally in your own hands as well as receive the tools for doing it, there are also many eye-opening and inspirational gems of wisdom by renowned experts and teachers such as Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, Joe Vitale (this is the guy who inspired me to do Ho’oponopono!) and Norm Shealy. Do come down to enjoy the movie with your family and friends… just bring your own popcorn.   Prosperity with EFT is held every Friday (except last Friday of the month) 7.30 – 9.30 pm. Experience the relief of tapping those stresses and discomforts away in this wonderfully welcoming and relaxing sessions, so that more prosperity can start flowing into your life! This is a great way to introduce someone to EFT. Sessions are by donation ($10 is good, but you know that I value your presence most!).   Healing sessions with me by phone and Skype are available. These are especially good if you have urgent issues to clear but can’t find the time to come down for a face-to-face session. I am committed to supporting you in your healing journey, and would be happy to offer you last-minute sessions over the phone so long as my time is available. I now incorporate sound healing with EFT, and with the support of the universe in my work, it is amazing how much gets covered in a single session. Do email me at lena@lenashealinghaven.com if you have any questions.   Note: All events are held at Shan You Counselling Centre. Please go to www.shanyou.org.sg for driving and bus directions.     Recommended Resources   With the intense energy shifts that are happening, it is even more important than ever to keep our physical body in shape. If you enjoy getting fit with other like-minded folks, here are some resources you may want to check out.   This new yoga centre Wasabi Yoga  www.wabisabi.com.sg at South Bridge Road has a beautiful space and provides a good range of classes and workshops. In the mood for dancing as a way of releasing deep buried emotions? This Gabriel Roth workshop may be the very thing you need: http://www.trulywellness.com/Truly_wellness/5_Rhythms.html Need to get more veggies in your diet but don’t really like the taste? You may fall in love with the Green Smoothies diet the way I did. Just put raw veggies and fruits (recommended ratio is 40:60) in a good blender, blend it up, and you got a nutritious, delicious complete meal within minutes! I’m always out and about, so the convenience of this method thrills me to bits! For more info, check out this new book by Victoria Boutenko, creator of Green Smoothie Revolution http://www.greensmoothierevolution.com/   Take good care of your body. Your body AND your mind and soul will thank you for it.     Happy Comments   Masterminding with EFT last Friday was such an intensive and fruitful session! It was simply amazing how we had such wonderful inspiration and resources for supporting one another in achieving our goals – thanks to the synergistic effect of the Masterminding group and good ol’ tapping. Here’s a comment from one of the Masterminding participants:   "This session was amazing, it was sort of like a brainstorming of positive energy and a forward drive to release any procrastination that has been stopping you from moving forward. As I described my discomfort to the group Lena immediately connected and created a script that was right on to what I was feeling. The positive affirmation that I picked and a lovely quote I got from this ‘magic’ book of hers enhanced my belief in myself even more. I think that this EFT session was a fantastic idea. To have Lena leading the session and connecting so well with the people around her was a blessing. The tapping sessions we had were beneficial to all as the group started connecting and releasing further issues that they had. Very good I tell you. Please do attend to find out. The more people the merrier. Keep tapping and Happy Days!!!" – Ian Edema   The next Masterminding session is on 27 November 7.30 – 9.30 pm. See you there!   Take care…trust that all is happening just as the way it should.   Love and blessings, Lena Chen Holistic Therapist www.lenashealinghaven.com Finding peace through life’s ups and downs   PS: If you have enjoyed this newsletter, please forward it to your friends and loved ones. If you received this newsletter from someone, you may subscribe directly at www.lenashealinghaven.com

Oh no, i am like smashing my own biz signboard (as it is said in Mandarin isn’t it?) with my reply to this client’s email, since my company slogan is “Finding peace through life’s ups and downs”. But of cos, i have my reasons for saying that, and i like my reply well enough to paste it here, in case it is of use to anyone, at any time.

First, here’s my client’s email i found in my Lena’sheainghaven inbox (which is bursting!):

Thank you for the therapy over the phone yesterday. It calmed me down greatly and allowed me to find some level of peace within me. But later last night, I am thrown into another disarray again. Nothing happened. But I just felt anxious and almost like i am going into a mental breakdown with thoughts racing thru my head and emotions raging. It is like a panic attack – minus the hyperventilating.
 
I keep recalling the period when CS first broke up with me – the distress I was under, the anxieties I felt, the depression I was in.. And then I got very fearful of what if this time it is leading to that as well? I tried to do what you say – put my hand on my heart, and listen to what my heart is telling me, what it senses from the surroundings.. And it tells me nothing, or rather, the thoughts of him leaving still ran wildly in my head. And I get more and more frightened of what it might eventually be.
 
I know the law of attraction says visualisations lead to realisation – and whatever I am visualising now may cause a self fulfilling prophecy.
 
What do I do to help myself now?

Dear A,
 
I am very sorry for the late reply as I was in the hospital for the last few days due to some physical condition which is thankfully recovered.
 
A, this may not be what you want to hear but the objective of therapy is not to find ever lasting peace, but to clear the blockages within us so that we may face life, both outside and within, with a certain level of equanimity and compassion, both for ourselves and others. You can also achieve this state via meditation, prayer, positive visualisation, etc etc.
 
What to do when you encounter such overwhelming distress? If techniques that I taught you or went through with you during the session don’t work, then you can practice the art of observing the distress without having the need to do anything about it.
 
Emotions, memories, body sensations… all these are like clouds passing by in the sky. Sometimes they are very scary, very unpleasant…but if we allow them to be, they will eventually recede, according to their natural “lifespan”. The more we resist them, and prevent ourselves from feeling them, the longer they will hang ard.
 
Take care A… feel free to sms me if you need a session. And remember you ARE strong enough to accept any troubles in life, especially those that brew from your mind!